What do you think of long distance relationships? I've been in 2 before and both have ended up sour, and seems like I'm heading back into that same path of a long distance romance.  Need to sit and ask myself why am I not finding any people here in the city that never sleeps lol

But honestly, what are ya'll thoughts on this.......do couples have a chance of making it or what? And if you have been or are in similar circumstances please share some advice/thoughts.

i have dabbled in that arena on a few occasions and they all went ker-plooey on me for various reasons like trust (one or both of us became unable or unwilling to continue trusting) convenience (somebody got lonely/horny and acted out with someone closer/more accessible) or the big one in the case of meeting online :Reality kicked in, i'll explain (and this is just my experience so take it with a grain of salt) we meet on-line and everything flows and the chemistry is heavenly, things couldn't be better they say all the right things and make me feel like woozie-woozie-woo right? then we meet and they look funny or they aren't the sparkling personality that i & my imagination made them out to be.  there's a difference between talking the talk and walking the walk. in the end i'm left thinking that i shoulda known better cuz if they were really all that they presented themselves to be then why would they be looking for love on line? question is why was i looking to meet online? cuz i had burnt up the ooportunities in my local area or i was simply fearful and gravitated toward the "safety" of meeting someone who exists on the other side of my computer screen.  i haven't been in a relationship where one of us moved and left the other behind - i hope i never have to experience that one.

tou-che sweetlocs

I've been in two long distant relationships.  I loved the first one.  We met when I was visiting my aunt in LA.  (He's originally from Brooklyn)  that's right also in the city that never sleeps.  While he was stationed in LA we were together a year and five months.  I loved this man.  He didn't want to have a label on him as boyfriend.  (But I didn't know that until later)  In 1991, he moved back to Brooklyn and we kept in touch for two years--he stopped then out of the blue he calls and I was making a trip to Boston. . .he asked me, "If you wrote our life story, how would it end?" At that particular time I was still into him and I told him I was coming through.  When I was getting ready to come back home, I spent the weekend with him and he said (At that time) that he wanted  to see how well we would mesh.  He would pay my rent for a year and we date. . .me at his crib and him at mine.  But we ended having an argument and he changed his mind  We still communicate ever once in a while, but I often think "What if?"  But he told me that we were not compatible.

The second long distant relationship (if you want to call it a relationship) lasted for ten months.  I guess that wouldn't count because I hadn't met him but I loved him (like my poetry); he gets angry because I asked him, "who was the girl?"  He said I accused him.  And I didn't.  He's working two jobs as far as I know, the calls were everyday, then three times week, to twice a week; haven't heard from him in a week and five days

you're welcomed.  I do believe in the long distant relationship--the distance makes the heart grow fonder and once you two get together, it's magic; if you really love that person but no one said that it's easy.  I'm a faithful person.  Then I've learned that if a man realy wants you to be with him he'd find a way to get you where he is.  So at this particular time in my life. . . I'm making it do what I do baby. . .POETRY and whenever he comes--he will. . .just tired of not being able to share my success with someone special.

I suppose in any type of relationship no matter if it's distant or close if a person is going in a different direction than you are, that relationship will have its trials.  Then you have to think on the support basis of it.  If you are not supporting each  other, something will not fit into the other person's lifestyle.  Relationships are hard and it takes a lot of brain power that could be used for something else.  That's also that energy dasoccergirl mentioned.  You'll drain yourself if it's only you giving  the percentage.