Greetings good people!!!!!

Just a few quick words t liven this thread up again and maybe pique your interest for more !!

When I exchanged my vows with Denise( My wife) I made a commitment to her, before the church, the state and before God. I committed to love her and her only as long as we both lived. ON that night I ruled out and abandoned all other possible outcomes. Leaving her was not optional. This meant that if things got rugged then we had to find a way to work it out. This was a vow before GOD almighty. She felt the same way. No other option. That is one of the things that most people today miss. They go into this thinking that "if I am not happy then I can try again." Not!

Love does not make a marriage. A marriage makes love. When you decide that leaving is not an option then you learn to love. It is not always passionate love. Sometimes it is what I call faded jeans, old sweatshirt and ragged sneakers comfortable. Don't panic, there is still passion there. As a matter of fact it is beyond anything that you can imagine as a single person.

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Imagine what it is like to lay there naked with the one who has committed to be with yo and no one else for the rest of their lives. When they touch any part of your body you don't have to wonder if they don't like the way it is shaped or if they think you are a bit too fat. You are in that state of innocence that approaches the garden of Eden. No worries. When yo make love you don't have to perform, if it works then great if you miss it then yo can lay there in security and laugh about it. Can't do that one with a live in or a boy/girl friend can you? Naaaawww even if you are comfortable you still wonder what they are thinking about your performance, your appearance, your smell.

Yeah lets face it , sex is not the sanitary thing you see on Hollywood movie screens. Sometimes it smells, makes messes (can anyone say wet spot) ( sorry, I just had to do that one!!LOL!!!) sometimes even strange noises!! But if you are with the one who has committed to forever then that just ain't a problem. We are talking security here. I NEVER had that with a lover. Never knew what this was all about until I married. Then I began to find out what it was all about.

The other thing, I was talking with a young woman recently who is getting married in a few months. Pure Virgin. No one has even touched this naked skin or seen this one nude. She said," When you first hold hands it is exciting but after a while you hold hands because you are in love and it not as intense. Same thing with kissing. (can you see this coming?) Is it that was with sex?

I asked her what her favorite food was and she said chocolate pie. I asked her if any chocolate pies was good and she said "yes", then I asked her if some is better than others and she said "Yes" . I told her that was what married sex was like. It is all good but some is just better than others. I told her it was one of those things that gets better with YEARS of practice.

See, God intended us to practice this with one person. Over a long period of time. My wife knows how to love my body and hoe to make love to it and with it. She plays me like a master musician on a finely tuned instrument. Even the basic,
" Hey lets fool around" or how about a quick one" are beyond belief. Esp if you connect on an emotional and spiritual level with the physical. And the truly hot stuff?/Man, The earth falls, the sky shakes, the light ring and the bells flash!! You think that you might just die and what a way to go. But yo can't get that outside of the total security of covenantal, married love.

Well those are a few words. I have some more to say about how it is an honor to give service to the one you love. And what a sense of pride it is to have a godly wife and have her walk beside you and see the looks on the faces of other men! I have had men tell me that they wish they had a wife like mine!! WOW!! That only comes when yo do it God's way.

I do not know why some men can't settle down and treat a woman the way they should(or why the woman can't do the same) but I do know that the things people are looking for are not going to satisfy and that both sides need to get in on how the Father said to do it. We have made it work for 27 years. I cannot imagine life without Denise and can't even entertain the thought of being with another woman. I tell her every day that I love her, she is beautiful, and that even after 27 years and more times of... than I can count I am even more excited by her than I was the nite I married her. And that I would rather have her more than any woman in the world.

Could you ladies live with that kind of security? That would make it easier to pick up those glasses they leave in front of the TV wouldn't it? If they were loved the same way they wouldn't mind all the electronic hair devices that take up every plug in the bathroom!!

Well it is time to go. Got to do some stuff before Crossing Jordan starts.

Your thoughts?

Hey CB!!

There  is room for response. I am speaking as a long term practioner who has been in a stable relationship for years. I don't know how it as changed out there, you do. YOu could tell us abut how it feels to be shortchanged by a man and what it does to "who you are as a person" I can't touch that.

YOu have a feminie understanding that I don't have. YOu need to bring the other side of this and take it to the next level girl! Al my stuff is born out of my experiences as a husband and a [pastor. The stuff I have heard in the counseling room. ANd you do not have to agree. I am hoping for input from younger people who may be able to show me a side of this thing that idn't exist when I was still out there. Do you feel me? YOu go girl. I have confidence in you! Bring it!!

I'm married and I'm very happy!! And everyone that knows me and my husband knows that we married very fast. Dathan and I met, dated, was engaged and married in less than a year (9 months). We are both very young (I'm 23 and he's 22) but I feel that if you are willing to kill and be killed for the person you are with, then progress boo boo. I can't see my life without him now. He was the person that I dreamed about all my life, I just never had a face on him.

Yeah Poetri!!!! aint you married too?????? Im glad to se some men out there proud of the commitment they made.